On Friday, after a sudden decline, my mother entered a memory care unit.
Across the country from her, my heart’s full of ache. My old mom has tumbled down the well of herself. I miss her. At the same time, though, my heart’s overflowing with gratitude that she’s now being cared for by professionals with tremendous skill, compassion, and warmth.
The day before Mom’s transfer, having just learned it was imminent, I took a walk. A few minutes from home, my way was blocked by a downed limb.
This poem began to form.
(Love you, Mom.)
DOWNED Phyllis Cole-Dai upon my mother entering the memory wing July 26, 2024 A big limb’s come down. Hit the ridge of a rock when she fell, split into pieces beneath the tree. I don’t know what did it. Wind maybe, or disease. Lightning would have left a scar. The world has infinite ways to break us, fewer ways to mend. We love, we love, we love again. Her wood is still wet, her leaves are still green, her voice still singing that old song about a life lived double, belonging to both earth and sky, shade for what dwells below, shelter for what dwells up high. A life of blending in, wanting only to be another good limb. Gravity took her down. Now, the pain of lying exposed and shattered on the ground, strangers tiptoeing all around her— O, who will come and harvest my pieces, haul me away to a bed of dirt? Make short work of my heavy hurt? I’m meant to be done, and nearly ready. Tell the woodcutter come soon, but not to hurry—
The Gentle Nudge
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Oh, dear Phyllis. I'm so sorry, and so moved by this melding of holding your mom in your heart across all those miles and times with the fallen limb that blocks your walk. I imagine that memory will return with other fallen limbs that cross your path, and maybe even, even-tually with signs of a spring's new growth and sprouting seedlings. Sending love.
Good Morning , Phyllis. The limb fell and yet the roots held firm.
“We love, we love, and we love again.”
Thank you for sharing this part of your and your mom’s life journey...
so beautifully expressed. ❤️
I am reminded of Mark Nepo’s, “Adrift” (which you probably introduced me to.)
It expresses our capacity
to hold the tension of both love and loss...
“It is there that I’m adrift, feeling punctured
by a holiness that exists inside everything.
I am so sad and everything is beautiful.”
Peace and Love always. ❤️🙏❤️🙏